How NOT to Overstay Your Welcome
Invitations are the mainstream of life. Entertaining is a fun thing when a common bond is shared. This makes for great conversation and true friends recognize the invisible boundary of time.
Of course, we have those humans who mean well, but are socially clueless. They have the need to dominate the conversation or constantly interrupt a thought-in-progress by sharing redundant or trivial data.
To embellish the nightmare further, these are the same hooty owls who are not clock watchers. Their visit is like a root canal – a “must do”, then put it behind us.
Awareness and consideration are the keys to a successful visit whether for an evening, weekend or longer.
Being entertained is the easiest and most enjoyable. The guests control the evening and, hopefully, know when to call it a night.
Begin with a punctual arrival and never “empty-handed.” Bring the host/hostess THEIR favorite kind of cake, ice cream or bottle of wine.
If it is first-time visit, then try a little creativity with the following items and presentation:
- A loaf of bread – (so they never go hungry)
- A box of salt – (so their life will always have flavor)
- A scented candle – (to lighten their way)
This will be remembered forever.
Whether it is a simple cake ‘n’ coffee get together or dinner, the host/hostess will be impressed by the offer to help serve or clear the table.
Always be aware of the time. Let not the host/hostess visibly stifle a yawn to signal the party’s over. They may insist that it is okay, but in their hearts, they will thank you.
Weekend invitations require extra effort.
If it is a shared-bathroom arrangement, we comply with the scheduled use of the facility, clean up after ourselves and leave enough hot water for others to use and enjoy.
If it is the luxury of guestroom with private bath, we keep both areas clean and neat, including making up the bed and doing our own laundry.
Offer to help with the chores where possible. Offering to share in the cost of groceries is considered a definite “plus” and, while most appreciated, will be declined. The thought is what counts.
At the end of our stay, the delighted host/hostess will deliver the mother of compliments “it was like we weren’t even there.”
Whether or not we’ve known our host/hostess a short time or forever, sending them a Thank You Note is the icing on the chocolate mousse.
Awareness, consideration and the “cleanliness is next to Godliness” concepts are never out of style and reap their own rewards.